“Fear is used as a control tactic by people who insist on controlling others; because this tactic is so successful on children it can be used well into adulthood. Being raised to believe that “I had no choice” (which is true when we are children) I didn’t realize that as an adult I had a choice and that most of the things I feared were either faceable OR things that I could deal with now that I was an adult with a choice.” Darlene Ouimet author of popular e-book Emerging From Broken The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing
“My life got better when I faced the truth about the “adverse circumstances” and placed the blame right back where it belonged. The pain went away when I validated it. I refuse to see the things that happened to me as a way for me to have become stronger as though those things were “meant to be”. That for me was just a way to delay the real recovery.”
Darlene Ouimet author of popular e-book Emerging From Broken The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing
"One of the roadblocks that I encountered on the healing journey was that although I didn’t realize it at a conscious level, I believed that ‘anger’ was ‘bad’. I believed that anger was dangerous and that it was wrong and would ultimately only lead to the wrong path.
It was really important for me to take a closer look at the issue of anger especially in the context of emotional healing. In order to answer the question “is anger justifiable?” I had to take a look at a few of the facts and details. My belief system didn’t change until I looked at why it was the way it was."
Darlene Ouimet author of Emerging from Broken; the Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing
"When I finally accepted that the fact that they never heard me before was a pretty good indication that they were not going to hear me now, I decided to stick up for me; not so that they MIGHT hear me but because I needed to validate myself. It wasn’t so much about asserting myself. It was more about empowering myself. For the first time in my life I knew that I had a choice in my relationship with them. That brought a new clarity; I realized they had a choice too; they could try to hear me or they could reject me again. They could choose relationship with me which includes mutual respect or no relationship with me which is rejection."
Darlene Ouimet author of Emerging from Broken The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing
“I am sad that my relationship with my parents is what it is. But the message that I want to deliver is that while I used to be very conflicted and held back by the knowledge that I was just not important to them, I am not held back by that anymore. I have become my own person and have risen above the need for their approval. I approve of me today; I define myself and believe my value to be equal to every other human being’s value.”
Darlene Ouimet from my e-book “Emerging From Broken The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing”
"...I believe the only way out of that lie, is to expose it (to ourselves) for the lie that it is. When I began to expose what the lies actually were, I began to realize that I believed that I was not worthy or valuable. It was through realizing that those lies came from somewhere, that I was not born that way that I began to change the way that I regarded myself. When I realized that I AM worthy, without anyone telling me that I am, that was when I began to find the freedom and wholeness that I had been so...." Read the whole thing here: