When a Mother says She is the Victim of her Adult Children

I received the following request from a reader through the contact page here in the Emerging from Broken website. “I was reading on your FB page about a post you had written about a year ago. It was about a “narcissistic mother” that demanded honor from her daughter. But I have a question for you; what … Continue reading "When a Mother says She is the Victim of her Adult Children"

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What if My Mother or Father Dies Before We Resolve our Relationship

     What if My Mother or Father Dies Before We Resolve our Relationship? “I used to worry that my mother or father might die before we ever have any kind of understanding or resolution between us. As I grew in understanding about the truth and got to the bottom root of all the dysfunction, … Continue reading "What if My Mother or Father Dies Before We Resolve our Relationship"

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Was my Mother a Cougar? More on Toxic Mother Relationship Problems

I have written about how my mother accused me of flirting with her boyfriend’s when I was only a young teenage girl. I have expressed the pain of being accused of causing one of her boyfriends to come into my bedroom in the night and how it was communicated to me by my mother that … Continue reading "Was my Mother a Cougar? More on Toxic Mother Relationship Problems"

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Toxic Mother Daughter Relationships when Mom says You are the Problem

  “When someone is unrelentingly critical of you, always finds fault, can never be pleased, and blames you for everything that goes wrong, it is the insidious nature and cumulative effects of the abuse that do the damage. Over time, this type of abuse eats away at your self-confidence and sense of self-worth, undermining any … Continue reading "Toxic Mother Daughter Relationships when Mom says You are the Problem"

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Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism

“Although some features of narcissistic personality disorder may seem like having confidence or strong self-esteem, it’s not the same. Narcissistic personality disorder crosses the border of healthy confidence and self-esteem into thinking so highly of yourself that you put yourself on a pedestal. In contrast, people who have healthy confidence and self-esteem don’t value themselves … Continue reading "Survival Mode and an Alternate View of Narcissism"

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The Definition of Respect ~ Do Disrespectful People deserve to be Respected?

  R.E.S.P.E.C.T. find out what it means to YOU……… A lot of my emotional healing grew out of realizing the truth about some of the concepts that I had been taught wrong. The people who were in a position of power in my life taught me a lot of false definitions of words like love, … Continue reading "The Definition of Respect ~ Do Disrespectful People deserve to be Respected?"

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The Pain of Not having a Mother vs Being a Mother on Mother’s Day

    I have three amazing and wonderful children. They were all under the age of 12 when I started this specific type of emotional healing journey that I write about here in Emerging from Broken.  I have worked at being close to my children. I decided when each of them were born that I … Continue reading "The Pain of Not having a Mother vs Being a Mother on Mother’s Day"

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Domestic Violence Dream Triggers a Realization

It was as though I suddenly realized that her rants and rages had their foundation in her belief that I had hurt her perhaps on purpose; that I had actually “set out” to wreck things “for her” and that I had control over those things. I felt as though her disgust with me had to do with her false belief that I could make her world perfect if only I “wanted to”.

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Toxic Mother Daughter Relationship and Oprah Winfrey’s Mother

This part of the quote in the statement “Oprah does not love her mother at all...She gives her a great deal financially but she does not give her the respect and affection a daughter should, and that bothers me.” ... well that Really bothers ME. Respect and affection? That phrase made me cringe. We are supposed to give our mothers affection? Why? Even if they beat us? Even if they sexually abuse us? Even if they disregard us as human beings and neglect our emotional health? This whole thing implies that being a daughter is a duty; that this “duty” has guidelines that need to be abided by or else you are NOT a good daughter.

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