sexual abuse

Why Should we Love where there is Fear and Abuse?

Posted: July 26, 2010 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 26 Comments

“Everyone was upset at me for not going to my brothers funeral. I refused to be a hypocrite. I was glad he died. That may sound horrible but it was such a relief not to have to live in fear anymore.” That comment was from a reader on the Emerging from Broken facebook page in the same … Continue reading "Why Should we Love where there is Fear and Abuse?"

Controlling Parents and the Questions Abusers Ask

Posted: July 25, 2010 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 43 Comments

The post “Psychological, Physical and Sexual Abuse Why Questions” generated a lot of interest, so I decided to do a follow up post asking the questions that controlling and abusive people ask us. The response on the Emerging from Broken facebook page was huge. These types of statements that controllers and abusers use are designed … Continue reading "Controlling Parents and the Questions Abusers Ask"

Psychological, Physical, and Sexual Abuse WHY Questions

Posted: July 21, 2010 Under: Freedom & Wholeness By Darlene Ouimet 33 Comments

Sometimes we get stuck on the “why’s” and the why questions. We can talk endlessly about what happened, we can realize that it was not our fault, we can face the pain of having been devalued, used, unprotected, powerless and disregarded, but the why questions still remain. ~Why did my mother seem to take pleasure … Continue reading "Psychological, Physical, and Sexual Abuse WHY Questions"

Dysfunctional Family Teachings and the Fears of a Six Year Old

Posted: July 15, 2010 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 7 Comments

on the rocks Dysfunctional families are dysfunctional early on. We may not realize it early on though because we have no other frame of reference. When we look back at our lives, we are unaware of getting stuck in some of our childhood fears. I talked a bit about this in my last post ~ … Continue reading "Dysfunctional Family Teachings and the Fears of a Six Year Old"

The Progression of Mental Health Breakdown

Posted: June 24, 2010 Under: Depression By Darlene Ouimet 32 Comments

“And then I identify as a failure…. I also believe I am stupid. And I don’t think I deserve anything better and sometimes I can see how it all spirals down into a deep dark foggy place where I am sinking in deep pockets of muck”. Darlene Ouimet ~ in the past. At the age … Continue reading "The Progression of Mental Health Breakdown"

Dysfunctional Family Contributes to Sexual Coping Methods

Posted: June 08, 2010 Under: Survival By Darlene Ouimet 7 Comments

In my last post “Psychological Abuse is the Root of All Abuse ~ many years later ” I talked about one incident that reflected on how my belief system impacted my life. I continue today with examples of how this played out in the past. I have written in the past about how I was … Continue reading "Dysfunctional Family Contributes to Sexual Coping Methods"

Psychological Abuse is the Root of All Abuse ~ many years later

Posted: June 04, 2010 Under: Freedom & Wholeness By Darlene Ouimet 19 Comments

Hola! It is great to be home from my travels, although it was great to be there too. In my last post I talked about re-wiring the belief system. This post continues with a snap shot of how it looks when I confront that belief system today. Even though this story stems from sexual abuse, … Continue reading "Psychological Abuse is the Root of All Abuse ~ many years later"

Anger at Parents~A Pathway on the Journey to Freedom

Posted: April 15, 2010 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 26 Comments

This post has been inspired by Sarah who left a compelling comment on my last post. I have copied and italicized her comments and answer them point by point. ~Sarah~ “What if you are an adult child of someone who was abused as a child who never sought professional help? My parent was depressed and … Continue reading "Anger at Parents~A Pathway on the Journey to Freedom"

The Twisted Accountability Tactic & How it Works

Posted: March 26, 2010 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 21 Comments

As an adult at the age of 23, I landed in a 12 step program with a pretty big drinking and drug problem. I was already sick of my life, sick of running and sick of feeling sick. I really was sick and tired of everything including myself and my life. The first two years … Continue reading "The Twisted Accountability Tactic & How it Works"

I’m having a Blog Party! Glad You Could Come!

Posted: March 23, 2010 Under: Freedom & Wholeness By Darlene Ouimet 8 Comments

I do this work because I have a passion for planting the seeds of hope and spreading encouragement for healing and recovery where there has been a history of depression, feelings of unworthiness, psychological abuse, child abuse, sexual abuse, low self esteem, addictions, eating disorders and all the other types of struggles that so many … Continue reading "I’m having a Blog Party! Glad You Could Come!"