sexual abuse

Adult Victims of Child Abuse Still Need to be Heard

Posted: June 08, 2011 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 118 Comments

I found out that millions of people struggling with depression, addictions, post traumatic stress, self harm issues, dissociative identity disorder and many many other issues also struggle with this same confusion around the dysfunctional family system and the accepted protection and “respect” for the “authority” who is so often the perpetrator of abuse and emotional mistreatment instead of regard for the child victim

Permission to Live; Busting through Beliefs and Survival Systems

Posted: May 22, 2011 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 87 Comments

I wondered “how I should feel” instead of having feelings. It was like I had to have the “right” to have my own feelings. I was not given permission to feel. “I am scared”, was met with “don’t be silly, there is nothing to be scared of.” “That hurts” was met with “no it doesn’t” and when I think about it today, how did someone else KNOW if something hurt me or not? How many times do kids get slapped when they yell “OW”? How validating is that?

My Relationship with Me ~ Emotional Healing

Posted: May 20, 2011 Under: Survival By Darlene Ouimet 56 Comments

“When a child has been in a dysfunctional family system, that child grows up with some dysfunctional thinking. It can’t be helped. The dysfunctional ways of thinking in my family system got passed on to me. Dysfunction and mistreatment, psychological abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse all contributed to the survival methods that I had … Continue reading "My Relationship with Me ~ Emotional Healing"

The Problem with Statements like “Get Over It”

Posted: May 17, 2011 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 165 Comments

Those statements often come in larger sentences such as “Oh for goodness sake, get over it already” and there is always an impatient voice infliction attached to them. Tone of voice is used to “remind me” that I must be too stupid to understand “HOW to deal with it” or how to "get over it"

Emotional Healing by Understanding Psychological Abuse

Posted: March 19, 2011 Under: Freedom & Wholeness By Darlene Ouimet 114 Comments

Every day I realize more and more that if the world is going to change at all, it is going to change through the emotional healing of the victims. I think that victims of emotional abuse and all the other forms of abuse that stem from emotional and psychological abuse including sexual abuse, domestic violence … Continue reading "Emotional Healing by Understanding Psychological Abuse"

How One Trauma Led to Several False Beliefs

Posted: February 23, 2011 Under: Survival By Darlene Ouimet 52 Comments

in the mind of a child I remember when I was talking about my first memory of being sexually abused. As I was speaking out loud about the details, being prompted for other tiny details and trying to remember even the thoughts I had about the trauma, I suddenly realized that I thought I could … Continue reading "How One Trauma Led to Several False Beliefs"

Welcoming a New Year of Emotional Healing

Posted: December 31, 2010 Under: Depression By Darlene Ouimet 30 Comments

Today is a new day and we are close to beginning a whole New Year! In the past I liked New Years because it always seemed like a new chance for a new beginning, but the past couple of “New Years” my thoughts are different; I thought that 2009 was the best year ever, … Continue reading "Welcoming a New Year of Emotional Healing"

But HOW Do I Recover? ~ Emotional and other Abuse

Posted: December 18, 2010 Under: Therapy By Darlene Ouimet 64 Comments

I finally believed that I was worth taking the chance on. I was worth the effort. And I also realized that the reason that I had not considered that I was worth it prior to this was because from a very young age I had been treated as though I was not worth it.

Covering up for Emotional and Psychological Abuse

Posted: November 28, 2010 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 53 Comments

freedom is on the other side I had this idea, well a belief actually, that my parents didn’t actually know that they were doing anything wrong with the way that they emotionally abused me. My father was extremely neglectful. He wasn’t interested in me or in my life. My mother constantly criticized me and humiliated … Continue reading "Covering up for Emotional and Psychological Abuse"

Self Worth; Where does it Come From?

Posted: October 16, 2010 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 24 Comments

There are little messages that we get when we live in an abusive or dysfunctional environment, or even if our home environment is not abusive, but we are being devalued or mistreated in any way somewhere outside of that environment. Remember that all abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and spiritual abuse is all … Continue reading "Self Worth; Where does it Come From?"

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