self help

Choosing Like Minded Friends and the Belief System

Posted: April 04, 2012 Under: Therapy By Darlene Ouimet 55 Comments

I decided to do a search on Google using the key words “belief system” and one of the first things that came up was the instruction to “challenge your belief system” (not much instruction on “how to do the how”) But one of the suggestions on challenging your belief system struck me as odd; it … Continue reading "Choosing Like Minded Friends and the Belief System"

Being Validated, Making a Difference and the Ripple Effect

Posted: November 19, 2011 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 30 Comments

So often we seek validation from the wrong people believing that if only we are "good enough" to the ones who originally made us feel "not good enough" then we will finally have the validation we seek. There is a difference between positive validation and manipulative validation from controllers and abusers. When validation comes from the abuser, only the abuser gets validated.

Survivors of Abuse and Re-establishing Self Worth

Posted: July 02, 2010 Under: Survival By Darlene Ouimet 14 Comments

Emerging from Broken Being survivors of sexual abuse, domestic violence, religious abuse or psychological abuse has a lasting effect on us. One of the worst consequences is that our value has been falsely defined by others. We are told who we are and who we should be. Over time we are conditioned to accept that … Continue reading "Survivors of Abuse and Re-establishing Self Worth"

My Therapist Winced when I Told Him…….

Posted: May 04, 2010 Under: Mother Daughter By Darlene Ouimet 52 Comments

Unless you are new to this blog, you have realized by now that my life has not always been happy joyous and free. I prayed to die for many years. I tried hard to change my life, to change my heart and to just “get over it”. I didn’t know what the heck was wrong … Continue reading "My Therapist Winced when I Told Him……."

The Beginning of Broken ~ Family Foundations

Posted: April 21, 2010 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 16 Comments

born innocent and with all our value ~At the heart of my message there is a sincere desire to somehow explain how the broken begins and where the healing starts. ~Darlene Ouimet Once upon a time in the 1930’s there was a small sweet and innocent little blue eyed blond child who was born into … Continue reading "The Beginning of Broken ~ Family Foundations"

Love, Respect, Relationship and Equality ~ Is Self Help Selfish?

Posted: February 06, 2010 Under: Therapy By Darlene Ouimet 4 Comments

When I reach out my hand to yours, what do I have to offer you but my own experience, strength and hope? Sometimes I go on rants. Everyone who knows me well enough knows this truth about me. I like to go on regarding what I feel strongly about, backing it up with all sorts … Continue reading "Love, Respect, Relationship and Equality ~ Is Self Help Selfish?"

Is Self Help Selfish?

Posted: February 04, 2010 Under: Freedom & Wholeness By Carla Dippel 9 Comments

According to the Canadian Oxford Dictionary: Self Help: 1. The theory that individuals should provide for their own support and improvement in society. 2 the act or faculty of providing for or improving oneself Selfish: 1 Deficient in consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure; actuated by self-interest I was … Continue reading "Is Self Help Selfish?"