Why People Discount the (Adult) Child and Defend the Abuser

“They say “But she is your Mother!” and I respond “Yes, and I am her Daughter”.  Darlene Ouimet I have found so much freedom in realizing that I don’t have to explain or justify my decision to draw boundaries with my parents or with anyone else, to anyone. I don’t have to help people ‘understand … Continue reading "Why People Discount the (Adult) Child and Defend the Abuser"

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What if My Mother or Father Dies Before We Resolve our Relationship

     What if My Mother or Father Dies Before We Resolve our Relationship? “I used to worry that my mother or father might die before we ever have any kind of understanding or resolution between us. As I grew in understanding about the truth and got to the bottom root of all the dysfunction, … Continue reading "What if My Mother or Father Dies Before We Resolve our Relationship"

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Was my Mother a Cougar? More on Toxic Mother Relationship Problems

I have written about how my mother accused me of flirting with her boyfriend’s when I was only a young teenage girl. I have expressed the pain of being accused of causing one of her boyfriends to come into my bedroom in the night and how it was communicated to me by my mother that … Continue reading "Was my Mother a Cougar? More on Toxic Mother Relationship Problems"

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Toxic Mother Daughter Relationships when Mom says You are the Problem

  “When someone is unrelentingly critical of you, always finds fault, can never be pleased, and blames you for everything that goes wrong, it is the insidious nature and cumulative effects of the abuse that do the damage. Over time, this type of abuse eats away at your self-confidence and sense of self-worth, undermining any … Continue reading "Toxic Mother Daughter Relationships when Mom says You are the Problem"

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Forgiveness and Child Abuse ~ When Suggesting Forgiveness is Abusive

When I was about 17 years old and had escaped the difficulties associated with living under the same roof as my mother, I became friends with a neighbour lady whom I eventually sought mentorship from. (Or perhaps I was actually just looking for someone who would love me and mother me.) She was a nice … Continue reading "Forgiveness and Child Abuse ~ When Suggesting Forgiveness is Abusive"

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The Pain of Not having a Mother vs Being a Mother on Mother’s Day

    I have three amazing and wonderful children. They were all under the age of 12 when I started this specific type of emotional healing journey that I write about here in Emerging from Broken.  I have worked at being close to my children. I decided when each of them were born that I … Continue reading "The Pain of Not having a Mother vs Being a Mother on Mother’s Day"

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