Is Trust Mandatory in Healthy Relationship? The True definition of Trust

One of the biggest stick points on the journey to emotional healing has to do with the subject of TRUST. Somewhere along the way I came to believe that I had to trust people until they were proven untrustworthy. That is a false understanding of trust. It was through understanding how I learned the meaning of … Continue reading "Is Trust Mandatory in Healthy Relationship? The True definition of Trust"

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Understanding What Abuse IS and Recognizing Abusers

Abuse is a word that carries a whole lot of baggage. When most people think about “abusers” they think of wife beaters and people that take express anger violently against others, rapists, pedophiles – well you get the picture. But those are only the extreme definitions of what defines an abuser. When I didn’t know … Continue reading "Understanding What Abuse IS and Recognizing Abusers"

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My Mother Finally wanted to BE My Mother

Remembering dysfunctional moments and situations like this one has helped me to see the dysfunctional mother daughter relationship that I had with my mother through clear eyes and through the grid of truth. These truth based recollections have helped me to realize that I was not the one that was wrong, that it was not ME that had unreasonable expectations. Even sick and with a new born baby, I still did not qualify. She still came first. She still got to decide the way things would be.

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Standing up to Dysfunctional Relationship Part 2

My last post (click here) was about standing up to my husband regarding our dysfunctional relationship, that I was mistreated and disrespected and how he was willing to listen to me. Unlike him, not everyone was willing to meet me half way with my desire to change and become my own person instead of a … Continue reading "Standing up to Dysfunctional Relationship Part 2"

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