I asked myself if I needed to live in survivor mode anymore; did I still need those coping methods; were they still serving me?
Was exactly was this “victim mentality” ~ how did it get there in the first place and did it still assist me or was it in my way? And perhaps the most important question of all; Is it true that I share in the blame for any of the neglect, abuse, disregard, failure to protect and mistreatment that I had been subjected to as a child. Read More
Freedom ROCKS Our survivor and EFB global community event “Freedom ROCKS” will this coming weekend on May 12th and 13th. Today I am happy to have Mimi share her story about what Freedom ROCKS represents to her. I hope you will consider sharing this no cost virtual event with others. For information on how you … Continue reading "The Motivation Behind Freedom ROCKS by Mimi" Read More
When statements are aimed to burst your bubble and put you down; Have you ever walked away from telling your exciting news feeling somehow defeated or dejected or feeling disappointed and rejected; as though your good news somehow wasn’t that good anymore? Ever wonder what is at the root of those statements? Read More
Inspired by the comments in my last blog post “If love is the answer, what is love?” I had this bright idea to write a blog post about what I was raised to believe “love is” and I kept hearing that bible verse going through my head… you know the one, “love is patient; love … Continue reading "Love is Patient Love is Kind ~ a bit of a rant" Read More
I was SO excited to tell my Mom my big news. She wasn’t impressed at all. She wanted to know why he asked me. She wondered (out loud) if I was having an affair with him. Something snapped in me. Ever since I was 6 she had communicated to me in various ways that the only thing that I was good for was sex or something to do with sex. Read More
Note from Darlene: My last post was about The Progression of Mental Health and how I (falsely) learned from a young age that my value was sexual. My husband, Jimmy B. started to comment (because I had asked him to in the comment section) and he ended up writing a wonderful comment on how he … Continue reading "Valued for my Ability to Work Hard ~ By Jimmy B." Read More
Darlene and Bodie In my recovery it has been important for me to realize how my parents did not have a sense of their own value and therefore did not know how to help me to see my own value. I think that when we are adult children and we struggle with self esteem, we … Continue reading "Unhealthy Parenting ~ The Foundation is Passed on to Me" Read More