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Passive Abuse and Emotionally Dysfunctional Relationship

Posted: April 17, 2011 Under: Father Daughter By Darlene Ouimet 193 Comments

One of my mother’s complaints was always that my father was “the hero” in my eyes. She said that I never criticised him and I acted as though he was “perfect”; that he left our family and then he made a new life for himself, but that none of us kids ever found … Continue reading "Passive Abuse and Emotionally Dysfunctional Relationship"

The Fog of Dysfunctional Adult to Child Relationships

Posted: March 26, 2011 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 51 Comments

When I talk about the fog, I am talking about the state of confusion that has been created by the adults in my life which began when I was a child. The confusion was created in order to keep me from figuring out that what was going on in my life, was not normal. I … Continue reading "The Fog of Dysfunctional Adult to Child Relationships"

Emotional Abuse and Identity Hunger

Posted: February 04, 2011 Under: Depression By Carla Dippel 36 Comments

Carla Dippel Co-Authored this blog with me for the first 6 months of its life. I am really excited to welcome Carla back again as a guest blogger! As always please feel free to contribute to this wonderful post by leaving your feedback and comments. ~ Darlene Ouimet, founder of Emerging from Broken It is … Continue reading "Emotional Abuse and Identity Hunger"

The Little Girl who cried Wolf; Belief System Development

Posted: September 29, 2010 Under: Survival By Darlene Ouimet 57 Comments

I was labelled as a story teller from a very young age. I remember my parents saying that I talked to hear myself talk. Although I don’t remember exactly what I used to do, apparently I was a little bit dramatic and I pretended that I needed help a lot and I was told that … Continue reading "The Little Girl who cried Wolf; Belief System Development"

The Body Disconnect: A Journey to Self-Love. By Kim Vazquez

Posted: September 10, 2010 Under: Body Issues and E.D. By Darlene Ouimet 25 Comments

A few weeks ago I wrote a post called Foundation of Eating Disorders and Body Issues and I mentioned using a technique mentioned to me by life coach and Author Kim Vazquez. I am excited to have Kim as a guest blogger today! Please help me welcome Kim and feel free to leave your comments … Continue reading "The Body Disconnect: A Journey to Self-Love. By Kim Vazquez"

Parent Child Relationship What a Confusing Mess

Posted: August 08, 2010 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 27 Comments

I wrote a blog post a few days ago called “Parent Child Relationships ~ When Loyalty costs too much, about parent child relationships and when my parents split up, that triggered a few new things in me. I intended to write about how my mother leaned on me when I was 12 years old, because … Continue reading "Parent Child Relationship What a Confusing Mess"

Foundation of a Dysfunctional Mother Daughter Relationship

Posted: August 04, 2010 Under: Mother Daughter By Darlene Ouimet 53 Comments

Today I’m highlighting a snapshot of where the dysfunctional mother daughter relationship began between my mother and I. The emotional abuse and dysfunction began before this event, but this was the point of no return. Just a couple of months shy of my 13th birthday, my parents separated. That in and of itself isn’t the worst … Continue reading "Foundation of a Dysfunctional Mother Daughter Relationship"

Controlling Parents and the Questions Abusers Ask

Posted: July 25, 2010 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 43 Comments

The post “Psychological, Physical and Sexual Abuse Why Questions” generated a lot of interest, so I decided to do a follow up post asking the questions that controlling and abusive people ask us. The response on the Emerging from Broken facebook page was huge. These types of statements that controllers and abusers use are designed … Continue reading "Controlling Parents and the Questions Abusers Ask"

How a “Leeching” Belief System Creates Havoc

Posted: April 17, 2010 Under: Father Daughter By Carla Dippel 15 Comments

A belief system that says, “I am a nobody, I can’t do anything right, I’m just stupid” wreaks havoc in a few different ways. I believe we were born with an unconscious sense of our own value; deep down, in each of us, there “dwells a beauty”, a person who is loved and can … Continue reading "How a “Leeching” Belief System Creates Havoc"

Unintentional but Destructive: Belief System Inheritance

Posted: April 13, 2010 Under: Father Daughter By Carla Dippel 18 Comments

Part Two At the heart of the devaluing belief system (click here to read Part One) is the lie that as human beings, we are not valuable in and of ourselves. We exist to be used by others. Our own desires aren’t important. Other people’s desires trump our own. Our feelings and thoughts can’t be … Continue reading "Unintentional but Destructive: Belief System Inheritance"