emotional recovery

What “Freedom Rocks” Means to Me by Lauralee Hunter Rivet

Posted: May 01, 2012 Under: Freedom Rocks By Darlene Ouimet 118 Comments

So I thought about how I could get rid of certain people in my life and out of my mind. The first thing that came to mind was the thought of tying a key to a rock and then throwing it in the river, lake, ocean or whatever body of water is close signifying closing the door and throwing away the key. Then I thought about pollution, so I dropped the key idea and am going to write on the rock the names of all the toxic people that I no longer want in my life and mind....

The Unheard Invisible Child; Being Seen and Finding my Voice

Posted: March 30, 2012 Under: Freedom & Wholeness By Darlene Ouimet 170 Comments

It is a very big part of the grooming process to be taught that (my) opinions, feelings etc. are not valuable. It got me “out of their way”. It got me to the compliance and obedience stages that they wanted me to be at. It got me “respecting” and sometimes even “worshiping” the very people who were causing me the most harm.

Dealing with People Who Talk Down to Me

Posted: October 05, 2011 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 218 Comments

Years ago I would fantasize about talking to them the way that they talked to me. I imagined myself rising up and using all my sarcastic voice infliction, sneering down at them or rolling my eyes at them and disregarding them the same way that they disregarded me. I would “show them” how it felt. But that is not

After a lifetime of Invalidation Self Love Began with Self Validating

Posted: September 07, 2011 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 92 Comments

I had been brainwashed that my childhood was wonderful, normal and that I was one of the “privileged” people in the world. I believed that something was wrong with me because I had so many struggles with depressions and emotional issues. I felt guilty that I was so unhappy because .....

My Relationship with Me ~ Emotional Healing

Posted: May 20, 2011 Under: Survival By Darlene Ouimet 56 Comments

“When a child has been in a dysfunctional family system, that child grows up with some dysfunctional thinking. It can’t be helped. The dysfunctional ways of thinking in my family system got passed on to me. Dysfunction and mistreatment, psychological abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse all contributed to the survival methods that I had … Continue reading "My Relationship with Me ~ Emotional Healing"

Judgement, Stigma, Depression ~ Come from Somewhere

Posted: April 21, 2011 Under: Depression By Darlene Ouimet 110 Comments

I believe that depression comes from somewhere and that it starts somewhere. I don’t believe that I was born with it, or that I was born with something missing in me that would later determine that I would struggle with depression. I don’t believe that my mother, who struggled with multiple depressions, passed … Continue reading "Judgement, Stigma, Depression ~ Come from Somewhere"

Seeking Validation and Understanding from the Wrong People

Posted: April 14, 2011 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 101 Comments

Why do we care so much about what everyone else thinks? Why did I NEED to be believed especially by the very people who invalidate me in the first place? I think it is because I was brainwashed very young to believe that everyone else knew better then I knew and that “they” had the … Continue reading "Seeking Validation and Understanding from the Wrong People"

Coping Methods ~ Trying to Escape Myself

Posted: February 02, 2011 Under: Survival By Darlene Ouimet 100 Comments

Staying with Me No matter which coping method issue that I look at within myself I have determined the core of it to be related to trying to leave myself. There is a disconnection from myself that I developed when I was a child; it was my way to escape and I became attached to … Continue reading "Coping Methods ~ Trying to Escape Myself"

Controllers and Manipulative People don’t Question Themselves

Posted: January 25, 2011 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 117 Comments

On What Authority? Controllers, abusers and manipulative people don’t question themselves. They don’t ask themselves if the problem is them. They always say the problem is someone else. This was a huge problem for me when I went into therapy because I was very willing to convince my therapist that the problem was me ~ … Continue reading "Controllers and Manipulative People don’t Question Themselves"

Demonstrating Appreciation in Relationships

Posted: January 22, 2011 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 39 Comments

“The best way to keep relationships happy, healthy, and supportive can be summed up in one word: appreciation. What you appreciate, appreciates. When we demonstrate our appreciation for the support we receive from others, it reinforces that behaviour and deepens our connection to them.” Marci Shimoff This is a beautiful quote. I tried to live … Continue reading "Demonstrating Appreciation in Relationships"

Emerging from Broken

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