You Reap What You Sow ~ What about Child Abuse

Did I sow the seeds of deserving abuse? Did I do something to bring that on myself? Was I sexually abused because I had “sown bad seed?” Was I neglected because I had not sown the right seeds? I believed that I deserved the strap that I endured many times; I was told that I deserved it. I was literally brainwashed to accept that I had brought all abuse on myself. And I certainly believed that I did. You reap what you sow.

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Psychological Abuse, Domestic Violence and the Belief System

When I was about 19, I worked with a woman who was getting knocked around by her boyfriend. We were all trying to convince her to leave him. Domestic violence ~ physical abuse is a chargeable offence! One day she came into work with a swollen eye. We were all saying “Okay that’s it ~ you have to get out!” and she said that this time it really was her fault...

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Seeking Validation and Understanding from the Wrong People

Why do we care so much about what everyone else thinks? Why did I NEED to be believed especially by the very people who invalidate me in the first place? I think it is because I was brainwashed very young to believe that everyone else knew better then I knew and that “they” had the … Continue reading "Seeking Validation and Understanding from the Wrong People"

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Dysfunctional Relationship with Mental Health Providers

I am pleased and excited to have guest blogger Susan Kingsley-Smith sharing about dysfunctional relationships within the mental health system while I am away on vacation.  Susan is my friend and fellow truth seeker, as well as the author of  “A Journey” and I’m also blessed to have her as a frequent commenter here on Emerging … Continue reading "Dysfunctional Relationship with Mental Health Providers"

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Mom and Grandma had a Dysfunctional Mother Daughter Relationship

From Surviving to Thriving Through  the comments discussion on my recent post “My Value and Learning to Love MY Self” here on Emerging from Broken, Lynda recently asked me the following question and since it is such a popular question I thought I would answer it in a post all its own.  Lynda says: Darlene, … Continue reading "Mom and Grandma had a Dysfunctional Mother Daughter Relationship"

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Conflicting Feelings of Rejection when the Abuser Withdraws

All abuse, whether it is emotional and psychological abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse or spiritual abuse, is abuse and that these articles that I write on Emerging from Broken apply to ALL kinds of abuse.  I intentionally make a connection between depression, dissociation, multiple personality, eating disorders, addictions and other mental health struggles and abuse. … Continue reading "Conflicting Feelings of Rejection when the Abuser Withdraws"

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Before I Faced the Pain I had to Face the Lies

  Something is happening here on Emerging from Broken.  There is a depth of sharing and honesty that I didn’t expect. There is a community growing that I only hoped for. There is a profound expression of struggle and healing, all working towards the overall good and towards emotional recovery. This post is the follow … Continue reading "Before I Faced the Pain I had to Face the Lies"

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