Toxic Mother Daughter Relationship and Oprah Winfrey’s Mother

This part of the quote in the statement “Oprah does not love her mother at all...She gives her a great deal financially but she does not give her the respect and affection a daughter should, and that bothers me.” ... well that Really bothers ME. Respect and affection? That phrase made me cringe. We are supposed to give our mothers affection? Why? Even if they beat us? Even if they sexually abuse us? Even if they disregard us as human beings and neglect our emotional health? This whole thing implies that being a daughter is a duty; that this “duty” has guidelines that need to be abided by or else you are NOT a good daughter.

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The Fear of Not Being Loved Ruled my Life

Love is not facilitated through FEAR of loss. Love is not determined by “being good enough” or “not good enough” for someone else. Love is not based on performance. I was taught to love unconditionally by people who conditionally loved me. In truth, they didn’t love me at all. They owned me and they taught me that as long as I complied with their wishes, they would value me. That is not love...

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Coaching with Darlene on My Definition of Love

I am really excited to welcome my friend and guest blogger Carla Dippel. Today Carla is writing about a coaching session we recently did. This post is an excellent example of how to dig down and discover your belief system about a specific concept; in this case “love”.  As always please feel free to contribute … Continue reading "Coaching with Darlene on My Definition of Love"

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Controlling Parents and the Questions Abusers Ask

The post “Psychological, Physical and Sexual Abuse Why Questions” generated a lot of interest, so I decided to do a follow up post asking the questions that controlling and abusive people ask us.  The response on the Emerging from Broken facebook page was huge. These types of statements that controllers and abusers use are designed … Continue reading "Controlling Parents and the Questions Abusers Ask"

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Christmas Gratitude, Turkey Soup and Great Mental Health

Each year that I continue to pursue living in truth and wholeness, Christmas just gets better. This year I am filled with awe and gratitude for how wonderful our family Christmas time was. When I went through my process of emerging from broken, my family got dragged into it too. There were a few tough … Continue reading "Christmas Gratitude, Turkey Soup and Great Mental Health"

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