self recognition in recovery

TAUGHT to Think or Taught NOT to Think?

Posted: July 27, 2011 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 88 Comments

Sayings such as "what are YOU thinking" or "if I want to know your opinion I will ask for it" are invalidating and meant to remind you that you are “less than” or less important than they are and that you are LACKING. They create self doubt and add to low self esteem. And if by any chance you believe what they imply they embed themselves in YOUR belief system.

Loneliness in Recovery and Emotional Healing

Posted: July 20, 2011 Under: Self Esteem By Darlene Ouimet 88 Comments

This also includes psychological abuse such as neglect and or verbal abuse; physical abuse, sexual abuse, spiritual abuse or any other kind of devaluing treatment. And looking at the roots of all this stuff was not about what “they did” or what I was taught they had a “right” to do either. This was not about blame, this was about MY FEELINGS. Realizing now I felt about certain events, validating and owning those feelings and emotions where they had not been validated in the past.

The Purpose of facing the Past and Childhood History

Posted: July 06, 2011 Under: Family By Darlene Ouimet 140 Comments

My emotional healing is not about my parents. It doesn’t matter how messed up they were by their own pasts, it is about the damage that was caused to me regardless of how messed up they were. My emotional healing is all about me and I finally believed that I deserved to have it. But first I had to realize that the beginning of emotional healing was about understanding what happened TO ME.

Emerging from Broken

Tag: childhood history

TAUGHT to Think or Taught NOT to Think?

Loneliness in Recovery and Emotional Healing

The Purpose of facing the Past and Childhood History