“I was taught that the spankings were given to me for my own good. I learned that the root of the punishments was love. This doesn’t make any logical sense to me anymore. I spent a lot of time in the healing process unlearning the false definitions love.”
Darlene Ouimet Emerging from Broken; the Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing
“I could not even comprehend the word ‘abuse’ in relation to what happened to me in my life. It just felt so wrong and scary to use that word. Today I help others crack through that fog in order to live in truth, freedom and wholeness, not to blame or live in the anger or resentment, but to live in health and confidence and to know that we are all worthwhile.”
Darlene Ouimet (author) Emerging from Broken; the Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing
“What do I really have to feel guilty about? I had to ask myself these sorts of questions in order to heal. What exactly did I do that inspired this ‘guilt’? In my book “The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing,” I talk about the few little normal kid things that I did that I believed were the ‘proof’ that they were right about me that I was the one who was ‘bad’ ‘wrong’ etc. but the truth is that those little things were nothing out of the ordinary.
Your situation may be different, and most of the time EVERY situation IS different, but what I am getting at here is the actual truth about going no contact. My goal was never to go ‘no contact’. ‘No contact’ was a result of the decisions that “THEY” made.”
Darlene Ouimet author of popular e-book Emerging from Broken; the Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing (see the website)
"When I was an adult in my early 40’s I was asked by a family member what had actually happened with one of the abuse situations that she had never listened to me about when it happened all those years ago. She made some sarcastic comments about how it wasn’t rape, as though if it were rape she would have had a reason to protect me… it was exactly like being abused again."
“I wanted my mother to acknowledge her part in my brokenness but she wouldn’t. I also know today that if she did, it would not have been the answer anyway. The belief system would still be the same. I had to take hold of my life, and own my own identity. I had to “own” who I am, and live for me and learn to define myself instead of being defined by everyone else, and thinking that they if they loved me enough, that I could love myself….it doesn’t work that way. It sounds like it should, but it doesn’t.”
Darlene Ouimet Author of popular e-book Emerging from Broken; the Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing