"It was through looking at the history in my life that I was able to see all the aspects of these fears and overcome them. There was a reason that I was so shut down. I was groomed over time to “accept” that I didn’t matter; my voice was not important and my needs/wants were invalid. Overcoming that false belief was only the first step on the road to emotional healing. I went on to realize that “invisible” had become something I hid in. Invisibility felt safer than visibility. Invisible no longer served me because I no longer needed to live in “survivor mode”."
Darlene Ouimet from the EFB e-book "Emerging from Broken The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing"
“Respect isn’t submitting to someone’s abusive and disrespectful behaviour. Respect in healthy relationship is mutual. There is nothing disrespectful about saying NO or about making my own choice or having a different opinion. There is nothing disrespectful about expecting to be treated with the same love and respect that I am willing to give to others. In the process of finding freedom and living in wholeness, I had to change what I falsely believed “respect” is.“
Darlene Ouimet ~Author~ Emerging from Broken the Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing
"...There are laws in place to protect children from some of the things that happened to me. Why are my parents exempt from those laws? Why is it up to me to put their minds at ease as they get closer to their final days on this earth? If I will reap what I sow, why does that saying not apply to them?...." Read the rest here:
Welcome to all the new people reading this page, my -ebook and my blog. I do this work because I have a passion for planting the seeds of hope and spreading encouragement for healing and recovery where there has been a history of depression, feelings of unworthiness, psychological abuse, child abuse, sexual abuse, low self esteem, addictions, eating disorders and all the other types of struggles that so many of us seem to deal with in the course of a lifetime. I do it because I love to see the lights go on when someone has a break through. I like to hear the chains breaking. I like to watch people get their wings back. I love to be a small part of that process.
I am dedicated to the pursuit of wholeness and freedom and to revealing and sharing the truth that I have picked up along the way; I will share it with every other person brave enough to journey. This is what I do, this is part of who I am.
Recovery and overcoming is not easy. There are times when it is like fighting all alone with invisible demons who never retreat. There are times when I questioned whether or not it was worth it; times when I wanted to stop the world and get the heck off. There were times I wondered what kept me going.
I appreciate my persistence today. It paid off. I am grateful for my drive, my passion, my courage; I am free. I am grateful that I found myself and recovered my identity and that I discovered my purpose.
And today, I am grateful for you, the people who actually like to hear what I have to say about all this!
Darlene Ouimet Author of Emerging from Broken
“Guilt protects the child from experiencing the more painful feelings of loneliness and abandonment. Guilt may also defend the child against overwhelming feelings of powerlessness. It accompanies an illusion of power and choice that may also be reflected in heroic fantasies of escape or triumph.”
Lost in the Mirror by Richard Moskovitz MD
"...I was powerless and helpless but the problem was that I felt like that ‘powerlessness and helplessness’ defined me as ‘useless’ and as a ‘failure’ as a mother, as a woman and even as a person...
Useless and a failure; And I had this nagging feeling that..." Read the rest here: