"Is love something that we deserve only when someone else decides we have earned it? How do they get to decide that? What is the criteria and does it make sense? Is Love something that has a different set of rules according to your title? (mother, father, daughter or son?) When I realized that by their actions I had been rejected all my life, that I no longer feared their rejection."
Darlene Ouimet author of e-book "Emerging From Broken The beginning of hope for emotional healing”
“We live in a society that teaches “trust” someone until it is proven that you can’t trust them. But then we are also taught the conflicting lesson that it is our own fault if we get taken advantage of. We are told that we should have known better or that we placed ourselves in danger, therefore either we deserved what happened or we brought it on ourselves.”
Darlene Ouimet author of Popular E-Book “Emerging From Broken the Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing”
"When we change the way we think, we change our lives. What most people do not understand is how powerful our thinking is and how involved it is in our health." Bob Proctor
~ (this is why my work is focused on changing the false belief system that has been developed through child neglect and trauma ~ Darlene)
"...You smiled at me, nodding and tilting your head as though you really understood what I was telling you. You made it easy for me to talk about my pain. I felt heard. I felt like finally someone understood. No one had ever really understood me. Certainly no one had ever validated my pain. And since validation was what I needed, it was so easy for you to use that knowledge against me. You validated me yes, but in the end it was only so that you could get what YOU wanted. You were a predator but I was so starved for acknowledgement that I didn’t recognize you as one...." Read the rest here;
"And some of us who have already begun to break the silence of the night have found that the calling to speak is often a vocation of agony, but we must speak. We must speak with all the humility that is appropriate to our limited vision, but we must speak."
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
"...There were several things operating under the surface when it came to the way I tried so much harder with people who were not actually that nice to me;
1) I was caught up in a cycle of having to prove my worth. I had done that my whole life, I had been taught and trained to do that and it was very familiar and even comfortable for to me to try harder. I was used to it and it had been a part of my survival mode since childhood. This cycle had to be broken..." Read the rest of the points here: