Comments on: Transformation and Understanding http://emergingfrombroken.com/transformation-and-understanding/ from surviving to thriving on the journey to wholeness Mon, 21 May 2012 21:15:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Viv Palmer/Harvey http://emergingfrombroken.com/transformation-and-understanding/comment-page-1/#comment-312 Viv Palmer/Harvey Mon, 08 Mar 2010 16:09:02 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=560#comment-312 thank you Darlene, Carla,Jeannette, I am still that little girl in church being told she had to change her heart. You've explained this well in your post, Jeannette. I understand a great deal more than I did before writing my story, with the resulting lightened burden. But gunk remains. I too shall focus on changing my understanding, Viv thank you Darlene, Carla,Jeannette,

I am still that little girl in church being told she had to change her heart. You’ve explained this well in your post, Jeannette.
I understand a great deal more than I did before writing my story, with the resulting lightened burden. But gunk remains. I too shall focus on changing my understanding,
Viv

]]> By: Carla Dippel http://emergingfrombroken.com/transformation-and-understanding/comment-page-1/#comment-294 Carla Dippel Sat, 06 Mar 2010 06:41:09 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=560#comment-294 Thanks Darlene! Jeanette, that picture is poignant in my mind too... You have really linked a lot of things together so well in your comment, describing how we connect what happened TO us to who we are, like there was something wrong with us in the first place that caused us to deserve the abuse. Thank you so much for sharing here Jeanette. Splinteredones- thank you for visiting and commenting as well! I agree- Darlene's "normalizing" post was full of profound wisdom. Thanks Darlene!

Jeanette, that picture is poignant in my mind too… You have really linked a lot of things together so well in your comment, describing how we connect what happened TO us to who we are, like there was something wrong with us in the first place that caused us to deserve the abuse. Thank you so much for sharing here Jeanette.

Splinteredones- thank you for visiting and commenting as well! I agree- Darlene’s “normalizing” post was full of profound wisdom.

]]> By: Splinteredones http://emergingfrombroken.com/transformation-and-understanding/comment-page-1/#comment-293 Splinteredones Sat, 06 Mar 2010 01:51:35 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=560#comment-293 Normalizing. That's exactly it, non? What we considered/continue to consider is so different from those who have not been thru this. It has been heavily on our mind lately. And then here comes this piece of profound wisdom from Darlene. Normalizing, thank you Normalizing. That’s exactly it, non? What we considered/continue to consider is so different from those who have not been thru this. It has been heavily on our mind lately. And then here comes this piece of profound wisdom from Darlene. Normalizing, thank you

]]> By: Jeanette http://emergingfrombroken.com/transformation-and-understanding/comment-page-1/#comment-292 Jeanette Sat, 06 Mar 2010 00:01:18 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=560#comment-292 Carla, what hit me in this post was the little girl sitting in church with her feet dangling, soaking in everything and trying to make sense of it in her little mind. I was there, right there in that same pew. And when you are dealing with abuse and already feeling that something must be terribly wrong with you in order for these things to happen, already taking the blame for the abuse, and then you hear from the pulpit that there is something wrong with your heart, that this is where the problem is with you; it's sets in motion a lifetime of despair, because you can never FEEL good enough, clean enough, changed enough; no matter how hard you try, the abuse is still there, so you must be broken beyond where a changed heart can even happen. And so I am just now coming to that change of UNDERSTANDING as you speak of, that it wasn't what was wrong inside of me and my heart that caused all of this badness to happen, but what was being done TO me; and nothing I could work toward on the inside was going to make that go away. And now I have to try to undo all this twisted thinking that has reached into the fibers of my being, this thinking that it still is about how bad I was and am and not about what was done TO me without my consent or even understanding at such a young age. It just WAS. So I am going to take your word for this month as my own as well! Continue in my change of UNDERSTANDING, the foundation of that long slow process of healing. :) Hugs to you both! Jeanette Carla, what hit me in this post was the little girl sitting in church with her feet dangling, soaking in everything and trying to make sense of it in her little mind. I was there, right there in that same pew. And when you are dealing with abuse and already feeling that something must be terribly wrong with you in order for these things to happen, already taking the blame for the abuse, and then you hear from the pulpit that there is something wrong with your heart, that this is where the problem is with you; it’s sets in motion a lifetime of despair, because you can never FEEL good enough, clean enough, changed enough; no matter how hard you try, the abuse is still there, so you must be broken beyond where a changed heart can even happen.

And so I am just now coming to that change of UNDERSTANDING as you speak of, that it wasn’t what was wrong inside of me and my heart that caused all of this badness to happen, but what was being done TO me; and nothing I could work toward on the inside was going to make that go away. And now I have to try to undo all this twisted thinking that has reached into the fibers of my being, this thinking that it still is about how bad I was and am and not about what was done TO me without my consent or even understanding at such a young age. It just WAS.

So I am going to take your word for this month as my own as well! Continue in my change of UNDERSTANDING, the foundation of that long slow process of healing.

:) Hugs to you both!
Jeanette

]]> By: Darlene Ouimet http://emergingfrombroken.com/transformation-and-understanding/comment-page-1/#comment-291 Darlene Ouimet Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:37:37 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=560#comment-291 Awesome post Carla! We are born good; stuff happens but before we can just turn it all around, we really do need to realize what the heck happened that derailed us in the first place. THEN the rest falls into place. For me, that was when I felt the freedom. That was when it all made sense, that was when my life was full again and I was happy in my own skin. Hugs, Darlene Awesome post Carla!

We are born good; stuff happens but before we can just turn it all around, we really do need to realize what the heck happened that derailed us in the first place. THEN the rest falls into place. For me, that was when I felt the freedom. That was when it all made sense, that was when my life was full again and I was happy in my own skin.

Hugs, Darlene

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