Comments on: The Guilty Way

By: Carla

Carla — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 06:02:16 +0000

Hi Fai! Thank you for your feedback and warm response! Thinking about this again, guilt was something that had pervaded my life to such a degree that I almost wasn’t aware it was at work most of the time. It was such a default mode in decision making and just living in general and resulted in me holding myself to such high, impossible standards that failure was sometimes so traumatic. Now, I am more aware of when guilt is playing a role in a situation and I can give myself the freedom to not listen to it. I’m so glad you are reading and so glad you found something valuable in it for you. All the best to you Fai. ~Carla

By: Fai

Fai — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 22:05:13 +0000

Carla even though this is older, I’m so grateful for your sharing. A little over two months in on realizing these truths, I just don’t have the words and am so grateful that you do!

By: Carla Dippel

Carla Dippel — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:42:47 +0000

Thanks for sharing your insights Patricia. You make a really important point in highlighting the “as yourself” part of that verse, which is so often overlooked. It’s been really eye-opening for me to see that my reactions towards others usually stem from my reactions towards myself. And your comment about the “imitation of the real thing”- yup, I can identify with that myself. Living that way amounts to a lot of WORK. Thanks for sharing your journey with us too!

By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker

Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:16:44 +0000

I used to believe this garbage too. Then I learned that an empty vessel does no good for anyone. Before I can help others, I have to have something in me—Love for myself. Until I can love myself, everything that I give out is only an imitation of the real thing. Even the Bible tells you to “love your neighbor as yourself”. In other words, if you don’t love yourself first, you can’t love your neighbor. Most people only hear, “love you neighbor”. They miss the important “as yourself”. Thanks for sharing your journey here.

By: Carla Dippel

Carla Dippel — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:27:21 +0000

Hi Viv~ I don’t want to live like this either! Being constantly burdened under this “way” was a big reason why I sought out a good counsellor. It is in learning the root reasons for why I struggle with this way of coping that is helping me find the freedom beyond it. Being able to recognize what we are struggling with and coming to a place of “I am sick and tired of this” can be a powerful place to be! All the best to you Viv.

Carla

By: Viv Palmer/Harvey

Viv Palmer/Harvey — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:47:57 +0000

Boy oh boy… “me” to a “T”…
I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to change.I’ve always been taught that to live life apart from doing and doing for everyone else is sinfully selfish.
I don’t have any valid thoughts..none..at least not on my own. I don’t want to live like this.

By: Carla Dippel

Carla Dippel — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:56:34 +0000

Thanks Jeanette~ I can totally relate to what you say. My counselor told me many many times that my heart was good, and now I’m taking over myself. It’s been a process for me of coming to believe that it is true. I wish the same for you, as you work through your own process.

By: Jeanette

Jeanette — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 11:08:03 +0000

Excellent Carla! My ‘go to’ expression about myself is how ‘messed up’ I am, or how ‘screwed up’ I am. It’s always been this way. I see my core being as fallen, dark, sinful and unable to do or be the right thing; untrustworthy. Looking forward to Friday’s post!

Hugs,
Jeanette