Aug
20

Poetry ~ Overcoming Sexual Abuse with Kate Swift

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overcoming sexual abuseToday I am pleased have guest poet Kate Swift’s work on my blog!

Kate Swift from the website “This Tangled Web” in the UK has written and compiled a collection of poetry. This poetry emerged out of the extreme child sexual abuse that she suffered. Kate’s poetry is deep and haunting and it gives the reader permission to talk about sexual abuse. The first step in recovery from sexual abuse is admitting it happened and talking about it. If you were not taken care of as a victim of child sexual abuse, it is important that you get help and support so that you can move beyond that devastating part of your life. I have read the book and I recommend it to anyone who has a history with sexual abuse or is close to someone who has suffered from the effects of being sexually abused.

Kate has graciously allowed me to share a poem that she wrote, with the readers of Emerging from Broken.

SHAME…NOT ME

Shame on you…for damaging me
Shame on you…for your lies and pretence
Shame on you…for your twisted world
Shame on me…NO THERE IS NO SHAME ON ME

Shame on you…for causing me to suffer so
Shame on you…for not hearing my silent screams
Shame on you…for turning your back on me
Shame on me…NO THERE IS NO SHAME ON ME

Kate Swift 2010

(this poem was used with permission)

It is so important for survivors of sexual abuse to realize that the shame does not belong to them, but to the abuser. Thank you Kate for allowing me to post this inspirational poem on my blog.

You can find more of Kate’s work on her website This Tangled Web  http://www.thistangledweb.co.uk/

Kate’s book is available at the following websites;

This Tangled Web

Chipmunkapublishing.co.uk

While I am on the subject of sexual abuse, A reader sent me the following link to an article about the American Statistics regarding sexual abuse from the website Parentdish.com. I thought some of the readers here would be interested in checking that out too.

 Here is that article: please click: Child Abuse by the Numbers

In truth and freedom,

Darlene Ouimet

Categories : Survival

12 Comments

1

I love the poem! It is very powerful and well spoken! Thank you for sharing Kate and thank you Darlene for guest hosting Kate with her poetry.

I also clicked on the link you shared Darlene at parentdish.com it is mind boggling when you read the statistics : (

A few months a go a new family moved in next door to my parents. My family had not met them but they knew they had small children. Not to long after the new neighbors had moved in the intimate other (not the child’s parent but the partner to the child’s parent) Beat the youngest one to death. My family did not hear anything usually my parents small dogs that live inside with them would cut up if they heard a noise etc. but the night it happened there was no sound to cause anyone to be alarmed..

this really has bothered both of my parents.

Abuse happens more then any of us really would like to admit, but it is a harsh reality.

Again thank you both for sharing!

2

Wow Nikki,
What a tragic story. The world is such a wreck. I honestly believe that if we expose the abuse, ALL ABUSE every kind of abuse, and if we as adults talk about it, we can make a huge difference in the world.
Thanks for your comment and for sharing this story.
Hugs, Darlene

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It’s sickening how many of us were sexually abused. The only good part about the staggering numbers is that we know we are not alone in our struggles. I’m glad that you are talking more about this subject Darlene. I personally have a lot issues that can be traced back to my abuse. I love that you included a poem in today’s blog. Writing poetry is a great way to express some of the locked up emotions from our pasts. This is one of my poems.

–Dim the lights in children’s eyes–
Hate of truth
And love of lies
Dim the light
In children’s eyes
To deny the pain
They do confide
And tell them
It must stay inside
Kills the child
That was alive
Leaving just
A withered hide

4

Thank you for sharing your words, my new poem, How Many Stand Silent, pleads for people to speak up for all abuse, to speak out against all abusers…together we can make a difference. Thank you Kate and Jennifer for your words, Nikki I cannot imagine your parent’s pain at discovering that evil was literally next door, and dear Darlene, thank you so much for giving us a place to talk, share, learn and heal together!

5

Jennifer!
Thank you Jennifer for sharing your poem with us, I LOVE it.
It is so true. So very very true.

Shanyn,
Thank you for all your encouragement to me and to everyone else.
Hugs, Darlene

6

I love this poem. when reading it I got some kind of comfort. I understand it. It’s so simple but yet so strong.. thank you, kate

7

I agree with you Darlene the more people stand up and speak out and the more we shed the light of truth on the reality that many children face it will help to reduce such things from happening..

We need a good support group in each community not just for survivors of abuse but also for young parents who are just starting out, I think if we help young parents deal with their stress etc. this would help as well and possibly save lives especially the children..

We need outreach programs for single parents! I think if our communities would band together and see to it that every child has an opportunity to be nurtured and loved then perhaps such horrors as child abuse will not go un-noticed..

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Hi Nita,
Welcome to Emerging from Broken. I know what you mean about the poem.. I felt that feeling of comfort too. I “know” it wasn’t my fault, but it is good to know that others know it too. It’s not my shame.
Thanks for your comment.

Nikki,
Yes we do need all those things.
Hugs, Darlene

9

I remember my own silent screams from childhood, still buried in my head and in my heart. Will those silent screams ever go away? Don’t know. I have dealt with my own incest issues for over 20 years and those silent screams are still there.

Thanks to Kate and Darlene for sharing the poem. Thanks to Darlene for sharing the statistics on abuse my Parentdish.com . Kate, do you have a date for your book being out in paper form yet?

10

Patricia & anyone else who is interested- Kates book is already out! You can find a link to it on her website.

11

Thanks Jennifer,
Patricia is asking if the paperback is available yet, as so far it looks like Kate’s book is only available in e book form. The links are all in the body of this blog post for anyone who would like to purchase Kates book.
Hugs, Darlene

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My thanks to Darlene for sharing my material for me :0) I really appreciate that.
I have been reading all the feedback and comments, thanks to everyone who has shared here. I have a facebook group also for survivors of sexual abuse ‘Reaching survivors of sexual abuse’ (R.S.O.S.A)
My book is currently download only as Darlene has said, however it should be in paperback from the end of next month or early October, if you would like to keep up with the book etc you can friend request me on facebook or contact me at tangledweb010@yahoo.co.uk
Take care everyone Kate xx

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