Comments on: Mental Health Recovery ~ Ten Necessary Changes http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/ from surviving to thriving on the journey to wholeness Sun, 05 Feb 2012 22:39:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Darlene Ouimet http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-56046 Darlene Ouimet Mon, 30 Jan 2012 00:32:38 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-56046 Fai, This sounds excellent! It takes time, but it is so worth it. Hugs, Darlene Fai,
This sounds excellent! It takes time, but it is so worth it.
Hugs, Darlene

]]> By: Fai http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-55984 Fai Sun, 29 Jan 2012 17:14:56 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-55984 I don't know if it helps to write in the mist of the pain,but here goes. Lots of my beliefs are based on things I don't remember. Reading your posts Darlene & the comments helps my memories to come back. Then I change them to positive. Right now I'm hating being set in such a horrible family,then living 51 years being blamed & shamed for it. I would never even let anyone love me very long, first I couldn't even understand it (pretty much learning now) then not wanting to taint their lives. This tainting still seams to be occurring. So I trust your sharing & I'll just explore the depths of this origins of damage funk. I don’t know if it helps to write in the mist of the pain,but here goes. Lots of my beliefs are based on things I don’t remember. Reading your posts Darlene & the comments helps my memories to come back. Then I change them to positive. Right now I’m hating being set in such a horrible family,then living 51 years being blamed & shamed for it. I would never even let anyone love me very long, first I couldn’t even understand it (pretty much learning now) then not wanting to taint their lives. This tainting still seams to be occurring. So I trust your sharing & I’ll just explore the depths of this origins of damage funk.

]]> By: Roshani http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-29999 Roshani Sat, 24 Sep 2011 10:12:40 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-29999 This is also TRUE ...Sophia!!! I can't not stand when someone tell me that now I am Adult and i have to take the responsability for the RESULTS of my LIFE!!! Where they were all these people when we were HARMED CHILDREN and they were all pretending. Not TO SEE NOTHING!!! IT was not their RESPONSABILITY to protect and LOVE US all the same??!!!WE have taken as CHILDREN a RESPONSABILITY that sure it is not the responsability that has to take a child , this means that we had to take the resonsability that it has BEEN OUR FAULT if the ADULTS have given harm to Us ...we DESERVED IT because we were BAD!!!!ANd still now my DEFENCE when I hear the word RESPONSABILITY it is So BIG that I have the INSTINCT to kill them( SURE I don't do it!!!)....but it is also OK now to feel all this anger....my little INNER CHILD still needs to make feel the aults responsable of this CRIME!!! LOVE AND LIGHT TO YOU!!Roshani This is also TRUE …Sophia!!! I can’t not stand when someone tell me that now I am Adult and i have to take the responsability for the RESULTS of my LIFE!!! Where they were all these people when we were HARMED CHILDREN and they were all pretending. Not TO SEE NOTHING!!! IT was not their RESPONSABILITY to protect and LOVE US all the same??!!!WE have taken as CHILDREN a RESPONSABILITY that sure it is not the responsability that has to take a child , this means that we had to take the resonsability that it has BEEN OUR FAULT if the ADULTS have given harm to Us …we DESERVED IT because we were BAD!!!!ANd still now my DEFENCE when I hear the word RESPONSABILITY it is So BIG that I have the INSTINCT to kill them( SURE I don’t do it!!!)….but it is also OK now to feel all this anger….my little INNER CHILD still needs to make feel the aults responsable of this CRIME!!! LOVE AND LIGHT TO YOU!!Roshani

]]> By: Sophia http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-29957 Sophia Sat, 24 Sep 2011 01:10:08 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-29957 How does it make me feel? I feel sad, and that's GOOD, because these words are opening the doors to compassion for myself. I especially like the point about putting aside seeing myself as a mature adult who is responsible for the results of my life. I have felt guilty for so long about not feeling able to cope. I believed them when they told me it was because I was lazy, or a dreamer, or unrealistic. The little girl did not get what she needed to become a mature adult, and then she receives the blame for their failure. How does it make me feel? I feel sad, and that’s GOOD, because these words are opening the doors to compassion for myself. I especially like the point about putting aside seeing myself as a mature adult who is responsible for the results of my life. I have felt guilty for so long about not feeling able to cope. I believed them when they told me it was because I was lazy, or a dreamer, or unrealistic. The little girl did not get what she needed to become a mature adult, and then she receives the blame for their failure.

]]> By: Darlene Ouimet http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-26461 Darlene Ouimet Sat, 27 Aug 2011 00:33:14 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-26461 Hi Beverly, That is my goal! To communicate that I made it, so you can too. Excellent comments!! Hugs, Darlene Hi Beverly,
That is my goal! To communicate that I made it, so you can too. Excellent comments!!
Hugs, Darlene

]]> By: beverly http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-26336 beverly Thu, 25 Aug 2011 23:44:13 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-26336 this post says all that i am going through it all makes sense to me. the bridge and the keys the returning to the real self lost left behind in a childhood prison made by the abusers. it is a long and difficult process but you made it and that makes me feel encouraged. additionally aids my understanding of this complex process of recovery. those labels given so easily by psychiatrists begin to fade away as truth and understanding surface. Humility and compassion not scientific labels, after all we are human (were helpless children) thankyou for the post this post says all that i am going through it all makes sense to me. the bridge and the keys the returning to the real self lost left behind in a childhood prison made by the abusers. it is a long and difficult process but you made it and that makes me feel encouraged. additionally aids my understanding of this complex process of recovery. those labels given so easily by psychiatrists begin to fade away as truth and understanding surface. Humility and compassion not scientific labels, after all we are human (were helpless children)
thankyou for the post

]]> By: The Recovery Journey ~ Common Bonds :: Emerging From Broken http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-13745 The Recovery Journey ~ Common Bonds :: Emerging From Broken Fri, 15 Apr 2011 15:51:38 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-13745 [...] Stay Tuned for part 2 ~ “Mental Health Recovery ~ Ten Necessary Changes“ [...] [...] Stay Tuned for part 2 ~ “Mental Health Recovery ~ Ten Necessary Changes“ [...]

]]> By: Lynda ~ Coming Out Of The cRaZy Closet http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-11501 Lynda ~ Coming Out Of The cRaZy Closet Sat, 05 Mar 2011 15:18:56 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-11501 I love this. Thank you, Darlene. I love this. Thank you, Darlene.

]]> By: IAmEchad Twitter http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-3392 IAmEchad Twitter Mon, 09 Aug 2010 15:16:31 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-3392 I love that. There IS life after broken. Wow PS. Is there a way to be notified of follow-up comments? I love that. There IS life after broken. Wow

PS. Is there a way to be notified of follow-up comments?

]]> By: Darlene Ouimet http://emergingfrombroken.com/mental-health-recovery-ten-necessary-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-1722 Darlene Ouimet Sun, 30 May 2010 13:42:20 +0000 http://emergingfrombroken.com/?p=985#comment-1722 Dear Sharon, It is very hard and draining to sort all this stuff out; I often wonder if the reason that I was unwell so much of the time was because of my emotional struggles. I am so rarely ill now. It is so important that you keep seeking your truth, and empower yourself with it, as you move forward with your journey. I felt so sad and lonely too, and I think that is a season in the whole process. It did take some time though.. I wish I could tell you that it passed quickly. I was also exhausted and thought I would never feel energy again, but I did! I have a full life now, in fact I am writing this comment from Puerto Vallarta Mexico where I am vacationing with my youngest daughter ~ and the other night this older man came up to us at dinner and said that he had been watching us play in the ocean, and from the screams and laughter he could not tell mother from child; he said it brought tears to his eyes. It brought tears to my eyes too, that I am able to be this way today. There is hope! There is life after broken! Thanks for being here, Hugs, Darlene Dear Sharon,
It is very hard and draining to sort all this stuff out; I often wonder if the reason that I was unwell so much of the time was because of my emotional struggles. I am so rarely ill now. It is so important that you keep seeking your truth, and empower yourself with it, as you move forward with your journey. I felt so sad and lonely too, and I think that is a season in the whole process. It did take some time though.. I wish I could tell you that it passed quickly. I was also exhausted and thought I would never feel energy again, but I did! I have a full life now, in fact I am writing this comment from Puerto Vallarta Mexico where I am vacationing with my youngest daughter ~ and the other night this older man came up to us at dinner and said that he had been watching us play in the ocean, and from the screams and laughter he could not tell mother from child; he said it brought tears to his eyes. It brought tears to my eyes too, that I am able to be this way today. There is hope! There is life after broken!
Thanks for being here,
Hugs, Darlene

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