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Healing Trauma, Depression, PTSD and or Domestic Violence

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There is a lot going on in May and June and today I am sharing the updates with you here on the Emerging from Broken blog because not everyone is signed up to receive updates from me. (info on how to sign up and new changes to the way this blog is running are near the end of this post!)

Healing Support: I am participating as a featured expert in the following events in May and June and my entire network is invited to be a part of these exciting online presentations;

 The “Take Your Power Back’ Webinar! I have been invited by Child Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, Crisis Intervention Specialist and Certified Trainer, Svava Brooks, to be part of a webinar, (an online seminar) for Trauma Survivors and as my guest you may listen to the each of the 24 expert interviews. This event has already started so don’t delay. There is no charge for this Summit; all you have to do is register! There are some amazing experts participating in this event, including me ~ you won’t want to miss it. My interview will be published on May 23rd. 2015  For all the details click here: “Take Your Power Back Summit” and register.

 The ‘HE HIT ME’ Series~ I have been invited by Liz Simpson, The Self Discovery Diva to participate in her video chat series “He Hit Me” There will be a live chat every Tuesday at 7:00 pm CST (8:00 pm EST) for the next 8 weeks. Liz will be interviewing me live on Tuesday June 30, 2015 .  This series is available by registration only. Here is the scoop!

 Liz J Simpson presents… “He Hit Me!” ~ a FREE, ten week conversation to educate and empower domestic violence victims, survivors and their supporters.

 The 10 part series will air LIVE on Tuesdays beginning May 12th and running until July 14th. Liz will be joined weekly by guest experts that include psychologists, social workers, domestic violence survivors, a Nobel Prize winner & even a celebrity spokeswoman for the national domestic violence hotline.

 Registration is mandatory to join the 10 part series which will cover a bevy of topics including:

  • common characteristics of abusers
  • safety planning
  • creating financial independence
  • single parenting
  • building self-esteem
  • writing/journaling
  • yoga/meditation
  • fear
  • how to love again

 Participants will be emailed replays of the weekly broadcast (in case they miss the LIVE feed) and are able to join the exclusive facebook community for the event ~ For registration and info, please see the following link.  He Hit Me info

 COMMENTS on Emerging from Broken ~ For several years now I have been struggling to keep up with the magnitude of comments that come through this blog; there are posts that have been active for 4 years! This is  a dream come true for me, but there are often over 1000 comments between 500 and 2000 words every month and I am unable to take care of this by myself anymore. I am sad to have had to do this but until I can afford to hire some help with moderating I have decided to close the comments on all blog posts over 200 days old. Please feel free to comment on any of the current posts and don’t worry if you are “off topic.”

 The EFB BOOK ~ “Emerging from Broken ~ The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing” is available on the upper right side bar here in the website. Click on the book image for all the info!

 If you would like to receive updates please sign up by downloading the “Free Guide to Getting Unstuck” on the right hand side bar. If you have purchased the e-book you may have already signed up for updates when you bought it. If you are already getting updates, please don’t sign up again.

 Please share this information. You never know who you know that might benefit from listening to these online events or from my message here in this website. I appreciate every one of you that shares my blog posts through social media or clicks the FB like button.  We are changing lives and empowering people to heal and take their lives back!

 Enjoy all 24 of the pre-recorded speakers in the “Take Your Power Back” Summit and 10 weeks of live chats in the “He Hit Me” series and please feel free to post feedback here!  

 In Love and Truth,

Darlene Ouimet

 

Categories : Therapy

21 Comments

1

Hi Darlene!

I really enjoyed your online interview with Svava. I love your directness.
Wow, all those comments! This really bears witness to the importance of these topics for so many.

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Hi Alice
Thanks so much for leaving this comment and for listening to the interview!
I was happy with it.
And there are some other really amazing speakers too.
Hugs, Darlene

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Darlene,

Thnx for sharing a part of “who” you are with all of us in that inspiring interview you did with Svava. I really enjoyed hearing how passionate you are about your work. I appreciate your commitment in trying to help us find a way to thrive instead of just survive day in and day out. You bring me hope by sharing your knowledge.

Not many are willing to get down to the “nitty gritty” of where many of our problems originally stemmed from. I read many books and did various meetings my self and none of them ever got down to telling you what you need to do to overcome the damaging affects of being abused because none of them want to point their finger at who started this mess to begin with. You have the courage and strength to tell the truth and the wisdom to know how to do it in a warm and compassionate way siding with the one’s who were abused instead of the abusers themselves. So refreshing.

Thanks for your dedication in trying to help all of us emerge to the other side of broken.

Peace,
Kris

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Hi Kris
Thank you so much for your comments and for listening to the interview! I agree with you about the nitty gritty of all this and I think the biggest struggle I have is getting people to share my blog/message publically because of this loathing to point fingers. (and because we are so brainwashed to believe that maybe it really is our own fault and maybe it really did originate with our own defects.. ugg)
Thanks for sharing,
hugs, Darlene

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Hi Darlene!
You did great! I’ve been watching and enjoying the whole series of interviews, taking bits and pieces, augmenting what I know, agreeing and disagreeing in some places—it’s really great when you can disagree with an “expert” and it not cause any kind of inner turmoil, having to argue with the person in some imaginary world of mine; you just know that you believe otherwise and that’s just fine.

I’m sorry that you’ve had to shut the comments down and all the difficulties with that end of things. I wish I had a good solution—-like some lightening bolt epiphany that would make it possible to keep things the way they are or even add to, instead of restrict. I feel like you deserve a grant from the government or something. There are all these services out there that are funded and you really are providing a public service. I read your comments to Kris. I have a nervousness of sharing your message, too. There’s real reason to have those nerves, though. You have to be pretty strong to be public; it requires both tackling your own voice in your head and whatever the public response is, which isn’t minor, particularly as bringing it out and confronting it among family can be pretty flippin’ traumatic and it takes so long to heal those wounds. Exposing the rawest parts of ourselves is maybe the hardest thing to do, although it can provide healing, too. I agree, though, if only all this stuff was socially accepted and understood, when it really isn’t. In theory, maybe it is, but there’s a heck of a exceptions in reality. I understand my desire to keep myself safe and I also understand that I might be freer and more able to be myself if I was able to not worry too much about it. It can really get your heart beating crazy, though, make you feel quite sick and all over the place sometimes (not always, just depending on the situation).

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Hi Alaina
As usual, I can relate so much of what you are saying here about the fear of posting. I totally understand WHY people are nervous and of course the belief system (which is very real) makes the fears real too!

As for the comments etc ~ I am going to take a decent break from EFB and get my head cleared. I have a plan but I don’t have the energy to put it in place!

Thanks for watching the interview and posting a comment! I don’t agree with a TON of so called experts! I am so happy that I can think for myself today!
love and hugs!
Darlene

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EVERYONE ~ the replays to the “take your power back summit” interviews (including the one I did on video!) are only going to be available for another 70 hours or so! If you have not registered or if you want the info about this event, please read about it here!http://www.takeyourpowerbacksummit.com/darleneouimet
There is some amazing FREE info about healing in these but they are only available free for the next couple of days.
hugs, Darlene

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Thank you.

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Hi Darlene! I had the pleasure of listening to YOUR interview today! It was a good summary of the things that I have learned from your blog these past two years. And it helped clarify some things. I was especially interested in the part where you spoke about looking at things logically. When I think of my life and the belief system I learned as a child, looking at the events logically, does help to put things into perspective. Like, why did I blame myself for showing up at school as a ten year old, unbathed and hair a mess and wearing weird clothes. I think I started to believe that because ” something was wrong with me” I didn’t deserve to go to school looking nice like the other girls. So it had become, in my mind, my own fault. But going deeper, the ” something is wrong with me” didn’t originate with me. That false belief was instilled in me. There are a lot if events I need to look at logically and truthfully.
Once again, thanks for all you do. I hope there will be more summits in the future.

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Hello, I just found emerging from broken, and must say i know Iam not alone, I just can’t seem to get self esteem. 57 years old and still feel lost

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Hi Amber!
Thanks for this comment! I am not sure why I didn’t see it until now! I am really glad that you listened to and enjoyed the interview! Svava says that there WILL be more of these types of webinars so I will be keeping all of you here posted!
Meanwhile, remember that I am being interview LIVE (with Q and A opportunity) on June 30th! See the post for links and details to gain access to that interview.
Hugs, Darlene

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Hi Doris
Welcome to EFB! This post that you have landed on is kind of an info post and not so much a discussion post but if you click on the home button and scroll down, each of the other posts have a more active and current discussion on them.
There are over 450 articles/blog posts in this site! All posts have huge discussions on them and the posts under 200 days old are all open for comments.
There is also the EFB book available and if you would like to download a copy click the book image on the upper right side bar.
Glad to have you here!
hugs, Darlene

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Hi Darlene, I think you need a clone so that you can keep up with all that your passion leads you to do! Thank you for opening up your life in order to help others. Thank you for helping me! Or better…thank you for helping me help me.:0)
Love,
Pam

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Hi Pam!
Great to hear from you. Thank you so much for your message, you made my day!
It is my hope that closing the comments on the older posts will free me up to produce even more helpful tools! For now, I am taking a break for the summer and concentrating on my kids, (my youngest graduated H.S. and is off to university in the fall! 🙁 )my clients and my serenity. (but I will be posting a new blog post or two!)
Hugs, Darlene

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I’m confused, I can comment on this post which is older but not on the more recent post about loneliness… am I missing something?
Thanks

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Hi Nat

The comments on all posts that are over 200 days old have been closed.
The loneliness post that was posted on facebook isn’t actually new; it was written in July of 2011.

Sorry for the confusion.
hugs, Darlene

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I went nc with my family after I tried everything I could to bring my family back to a place of talking.
Before my nc my entire family, because of a lie told by sister, ostrisized me. No one would listen to the fact
that what my sister said about me wasn’t true they just took her side and refused to talk to me. Oh, they would
talk and email AT me, but would never have two way conversation.

During that time I learned that being ostrisized causes actual physical pain for the person excluded. It also is extremely stressful to NOT talk to someone…so it is unhealthy for both sides. But the psychological pain it causes manifests in the body. I experienced that for a long time even after I took control of the verbal attacks and truly cut contact with everyone involved.

It’s taken a long time to physically begin to heal. It’s amazing this process, and I wouldn’t wish it on my worse enemy.
It’s brutal.

Thank you Darlene for giving me a voice.
MG

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Today I went with my amazing husband to get a quote for critical illness cover for the both of us, he knows all of my history and is truly an amazing husband, whilst completing the forms there were lots of questions about health, my health has suffered a lot from my anxiety in dealing with a n mother and a co dependant father and due to the lack of emotional support I received as a child I tried to take my life in my teens and later my health has suffered as a result of poor treatment and other mental health issues from my family. I don’t smoke and very rarely drink, I am overweight but I know this is a way I comfort myself and guess what I was rejected, rejected and not able to take critical illness cover. It has shake me up a bit because you think you are making small steps and sometimes strides to getting over the nightmare of being related to these people who took you to hell and nearly left you there and then something like this happens and it reminds you that you will never be free from them even if like me you went nc after a long inner battle about it earlier this year.

In a way the fact that this has happened has made me realise that I have made the right choice in going nc, unfortunately I feel I have done this to late in certain aspects of my life.

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Nc is new to me at, now, 49 but I am grateful for the freedom and the peace that comes with it, even with some grief.
As far as doing something “too late,” Jojo, I can equate that to what I have witnessed being in recovery from alcoholism coming up on 20 yrs. I got sober at 29 but during these years I have seen people in their 60’s, 70’s & even 80’s come into the rooms of recovery and live out their lives sober. Was it too late? Not for them. They expressed gratitude for finally being free, and being able to finally have relationship with their God. It takes what it takes.
Some finally get sober and start with self care after years of neglect then get diagnosed with something which was caused or caught while out practicing their addiction. If they were still ” in the problem” instead of in the solution they wouldn’t have been able to walk through it with Grace, wisdom and peace of mind.

There are consiquences to all of our choices but I am glad I am able to move forward, one day at a time, without drugs or alcohol to numb the pain–but especially without those who actually CAUSED most of the pain I tried for years to numb!! Lol.

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Hello, I am 55 and struggling. I was molested as a child. My mother said I had that come hither look. I was the youngest of six and am sure I sought attention. When I was twelve my sister married a known pedophile. I became very vocal as they were having children. In short waiting for due process gave him the opp7tl molest his children as they grew until he finally nearly raped his three year old granddaughter. I once again was veRyan vocal as he had been charged several times in missoula witch had not followed him to Washington. I was able to aid in that information and he spent 15 years.
Once again my family discredited me to the point that my cousin tried to force me to have sex. His continual banter was it doesn’t matter what he does not one will ever believe me. It appears he’s right.it is easier for the family to accept one of their children are crazy than to accept they allowed a trail of devastation to rip through a family.
I am having a terrible problem with depression living this reality

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Hi Tammy
Welcome to EFB~ Children don’t have any responsibility for the abuse that they suffer. I am so sorry that you were accused that way and that you were unprotected. That is horrible!
I am glad you are here; I hope you find some comfort in the info here. There are over 450 articles all with discussions.
Hugs, Darlene

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